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3). Pick one concept from throughout the semester that you feel can use further discussion.

a: I think that the topic of cultural communication could be explored further. It is understood that to be a cosmopolitan, global citizen, we must be able to understand cultural differences. To be able to adapt is also another important skill in this type of communication. To the Japanese, you are not allowed to speak casually with a stranger or anyone unless you ask for permission or are granted permission. In the middle east, women are not allowed to speak and males are the dominant person in the household. Cultural differences influences the topic of communication heavily. And another heavy impact is also the history of the country. For example, in China males are favored because of the traditions in which the male son carries down. It is considered an honor to carry down the family name and other heirloom/artifacts. If we had known this then during a wedding ceremony we would understand why everything is paid for by the male family and the female family must give at least one expensive heirloom to the male family. Understanding the history also helps us see how much communication as developed in terms of gender roles.

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2). What was your favorite thing about the class?  What was

your least favorite thing about the class?  How can this class

be improved?  Again, be specific.

a: My favorite thing about the class is the fact that it is online and allows me to do things at my own pace. The fact that we had WEEKLY blog posts instead of daily blog posts really helped in maintaining a flexible schedule this semester. I enjoyed how the essays and everything were all due online. Posting on blogger has been a delight as well. Commenting is a bit tedious because of the user verification everytime we comment, but other than that it isn't much of a hassle. Perhaps the only cons are the online quizzes and tests. Desire to learn isn't a really user-friendly interface. There were several times where my screen froze or I clicked submit and all of the questions refreshed and I had to redo the whole quiz in under ten minutes. The questions on the quiz, at times, feels as if there are several answers. I'd much rather do a one page or two page, roughly 500 word, paper or blog post about the chapter.

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1). What have you learned in this class over the course of the semester?  Be specific.

a: I have learned many things this semester. From relationship development to various communication concepts that I would have been blind to if not for this course. For relationships, I have learned how different relationships have different forms of communication. Communication between regular friends, close/best friends, significant other, to family. Each of these relationships have special qualities and require a different approach of communication. With your family you may be blunt, but amongst friends you are careful with your words. I have also learned that in different countries there are also different customs. For example, silence in some countries mean respect while to others they consider it rude or disrespectful. I think that the concept that will benefit the most in the long run is understanding how to communicate with your family effectively. In a family there are always bound to be mis-communication or misinterpretation and being about to sit down and properly solve your problems and come to a agreed resolution is important.

Q3

Q3). Pick one concept from the reading this week and discuss it in detail.

A: The topic which I would like to discuss this week is the section labeled "Don't Sweat the Small Stuff". I think that after knowing someone a long time and being very comfortable with them we start to see more and more of their flaws enlarged. What we "dismiss" in the beginning may become the thing we hate the most about the person. In my own personal relationship, one that I'm not very comfortable with is his messiness. His trunk is like a junkyard and I dismiss it sometimes and I start nagging at him sometimes to clean it up. But, then I mentally decided in my mind, instead of getting angry at him for a dirty trunk I should just clean it up myself. Probably will only take me 20 minutes to get everything cleaned, deodorized and in vacuumed.

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Q:2). In this chapter, you have read about some of the ways in which marriage has changed over time.  Based on cultural trends and evolving values of your generation, what changes in marriage would you predict over the next 50 years?

A: Over the next 50 years I expect families to have less face to face communication and more technological communication. Since the development of instant messaging and cell phones we have spent less and less time face to face with others. Since we are currently growing up in this stage of technology it is likely that in the future, this is how we will act with our families. The google glasses is a pretty accurate description of what I think future communication will be like. It will be portable and around you almost 24/7. You can voice call, video call, send email and messages anywhere and to anyone. I imagine data will be much more affordable as well.

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Q: 1). How do you define family?  What do family members do for each other? Which types of relationships discussed in this chapter do and do not fit your definition?

A: I define family as people whom I am genetically related to and people whom I can rely on as support no matter what.  There are some things and only family members are willing to do for you and help me through. For example, you want to get a loan to buy a house and you need someone to co-sign for you. Which basically means, if you can't pay it off the person much pay for you. Not a lot of friends are willing to do that. Another example is, your car broke down and you want to get it fixed. It costs around seven thousand to repair, and instead of taking out a loan you family member can lend you the money and you can just pay them back.

Q3

Q3: free post
A: This week I wish to discuss how people's pride get in the way of their true self and lifestyle. They desire to live a certain life, or they think that they must act a certain way to gain people's liking and will buy physical things or say things to purposely deceit others. For example, a high school student driving a new Honda and has a LV backpack. We all know she can not afford those things; those things have been gifted to her. She struts around school and every one gives her compliments. Because she went home too late last night she drives to school the next day with a regular jansport backpack and her old beat up pick up truck. She her pride just got shattered. Desperate to get her "face" back her makes up lies saying she crashed her car and this is her dad's beat up car and her LV purse is at home. But the truth is, she drove her mom's new car and her LV purse was face. Lies and deceit in real life don't get you far, your pride gets hurt because you climbed to the top for the pyramid for the day and now you fall back down to the bottom.

Q2

Q2). Have you experienced relationships in which love or commitment, but not both, were present?  Describe relationships in which there was commitment but not love.  What can you conclude about the impact of each?

A:  I have experienced relationships where love was present but not commitment. I was under a lot of stress in high school and barely had enough time to breathe and relax. I loved my dog. I adored her. She had been my friend since I moved here to San Jose. She was there by my side licking my face every time I cried and she was just always there within arms reach. In elementary school and middle school I went outside to play with her daily. I spoke to her as if she understood and she would always nudge me or lick me at the right times when I am sitting there telling her my problems. Last year, she had passed away. I look back and realized as soon as I entered high school I neglected her entirely. I barely socialized with her. I'd see her outside the window when I come home waiting for me to go outside and play with her. But, I went home everyday after swim practice worn out, hungry, and needed to rush me homework and hit the sacks at 10. I think that, in the end, when I was there with her, till the last moment whens he looked into my eyes it was as if she said it is ok. I had her buried in our backyard because she belong here, with me. It's been a year and I now have new dogs. I go and pet them and feed them daily. I am going to spoil them rotten and commit to them 80% of the time. And when I can't hold my end of the string I know that my mom will step in and help. But, I have learned that time is precious. You must love and commit before you lose everything.

Q1

Q:1). Some critics (Van Gelder, 1991, Stone, 1996) of online communities believe that there is greater potential for deceit in online relationships than in face-to-face ones.  They point out that in online relationships, people may misrepresent their appearance, sex, sexual orientation, and so forth.  Do you think it is ethical for people to represent themselves inaccurately?  Do you think that deception is more likely in online than in face-to-face interaction, or are different kinds of deception equally likely in the two kinds of interaction?

A: I do not think that it is ethical for people to conjure up a online identity. By falsely providing information they are creating a person whom does not exist. Most times when on the internet we provide true information because the truth is always easier than spreading false lies. However, some people choose to conceal their true identity and create an online self whom they can be and are proud of. They then disconnect from the real world and play out their live virtually. Deception is most commonly found online because they other person can only take your word for everything you say. Versus, if you were face to face with someone their body language and the way they act can sometimes give away if they are telling the truth or not. Of course, some have trained their body to not gives signals which they are lying. But, in the end, the truth will spew out in real life. 

Q3

Q3). Pick one concept from the reading this week and discuss it in detail.
A: The concept or topic I want to talk about this week is Bosses and Buddies found on page 260. I think that this is a super important thing to note because this is the main reason why people hire stranger to work for them rather than a friend or family member.  It is inevitable to make great friends at a workplace. You are with your coworker around 8 hours a day, of course with time you will make a friend or a few friends. What if one day they become your manager? What if you start slacking because you know that your friend will give you a break just because you are friends? What if they fire you when you thought they were going to excuse you just because you guys are pals? There is bound to be issues of superiority. Should they enforce work rules and give you a hard time and possibly fire you and ruin the friendship or should they sweep it under the rug? I think that the best scenario is to just be casual friends. And make sure you have your act together at all times. Once or twice a slipup is ok and can be swept under the rug but if you take advantage of it, your time is done. So, what if your best friend is your manager and you are the employee that he/she hired? You should separate work and friendship in this case. They offer you a position, meaning they help you secure an income. It is up to you to keep your butt on the line just like everyone else and not slack. Because it not only makes you look bad, it makes them look bad as well for letting you in. A really good proverb here is "give you an inch and you think you own the world". 

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Q2). Think about someone who is a very close or best friend.  Describe the investments you and your friend have made in the relationship.  Describe how you build and communicate trust, acceptance, and closeness.  Are the dynamics of your friendship consistent with those identified by researchers as discussed in this chapter?


A: I think my closest relationship asides from my boyfriend at the current moment is my elementary school best friend. We come from entirely different backgrounds. She was a true American while I was a traditional Asian. We both don't quite know how we became friends. Maybe it was because we were assigned to sit together on the first day of class. I didn't have any friends since I just moved to San Jose. I would follow her around with my broken English and we would hang out everyday in class, recess and lunch. We would seldom give each other presents because I really don't enjoy spending someone else's money even as a child. So I made things for her. I guess because of the time we spent together. All of our fights, bickering, helping each other get closer to our crushes, playing games together helped us get closer and closer. I really think that spending time face to face with someone brings you so much closer than virtual friends whom you text or message daily. We trusted each other with our deepest secrets such as growing up and becoming an adult, what we didn't like about the world and how it would be like if we were the parents. We accepted our differences and were fascinated on how much our worlds differ. A classic American family is very hard to come by since most people in my side of town are Asian. In my year of middle school there were only three Caucasian's! The dynamics of our relationship really do correlate to the chapter. I am grateful to have had her daily in my life. I know that she is still local but since we went to a difference high school our views have grown different and so have our social circles. I trust that if one day, I am in deep trouble and need her help she will be there to lend a hand because I will certainly do that for her with great open arms as soon as she asks,

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Q:To learn how others view friendships and what issues arise in their friendships, visit the Friendship Page.  This site offers songs, poetry, and quotes about Friendship, as well as chat rooms and an advice forum.  To what extent do the issues raised in the advice forum reflect challenges to friendship discussed in this chapter?  http://www.friendship.com.au/

A: I think that the advice given in the forum is very scattered. There are many different definitions for friendship and especially in the poetry and quotes sections everything is pretty much scattered. Some are referring to friends and how the true one are the ones that have your back or the ones that stab you in the front. Basically telling the difference between a true friend and a "classmate" friend. Many of the quotes I have seen or read before and it was quite interesting to reread them again now that I'm older and many are true. As a child those quotes about friendship felt so old fashioned and outdated. On the advice forum it was really messy. I'm not quite sure what I'm even looking at. I guess the main problem here is communication! All I see is scattered posts that look like this:

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Q:Pick one concept from the reading this week and discuss it in detail

A: The topic that I would like to talk about today is the little orange section labeled as Diversity on page 205. Throughout my life I have dealt with and have seen a lot of disabled and elderly. I'm not sure if it is because I enjoy talking to them or if I just happen to meet them and talk to them just because. I　ｈａｖｅ　ａｌｍｓｏｔ　ａｌｗａｙｓ　ｄｅｖｅｌｏｐ　ａ　ｗｏｎｄｅｒｆｕｌ　ａｎｄ　ｆｉｌｌｉｎｇ　ｒｅｌａｔｉｏｎｓｈｉｐ　ｗｉｔｈ　ｔｈｅｍ　ｂｅｃａｕｓｅ　ｔｈｅｉｒ　ｗａｙ　ｏｆ　ｌｉｆｅ　ｉｓ　ｓｏ　ｄｉｆｆｅｒｅｎｔ　ａｎｄ　ｔｈｅ　ｄｅｔａｉｌｓ　ｗｈｉｃｈ　ｔｈｅｙ　ｓｏａｋ　ｕｐ　ａｒｅ　ｄｉｆｆｅｒｅｎt. For example, my freshman year high school English teacher was blind. Most students in the class laughed at him, made fun of him, and purposely caused trouble just because he was visually impaired. I gradually started to go to class early because lunch was right before this class just to join him for a few minutes. It felt really sad to see him eating all by himself and feeling around everything to find his dropped spoon or his lunch bag. So, I sat and spoke to him and I learned so many new things. Turns out, if you are blind you can still see light, dark, and movement. He has like supersonic hearing and and listen to lots of words per minute and the "fly noise" that was really popular because most teachers couldn't hear it. I think that everyone that is disabled in anyway should be respected. There is no need to be fake and baby or treat them much different than how you would treat a random stranger walking by on the street.

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Q: Think of an interaction in which you felt disconfirmed or defensive.  Describe how others in the situation communicated toward you.  How many of Gibb's defensiveness-producing communication behaviors can you identify as present in the situation?

A: I'd say the best example I have for this is in high school when everyone is clustered in their groups and one pair of my friends broke up and caused a huge chaotic "he said" "she said" in the group.  I stood between the two because they had been my more honest and reliable friends for all four years of high school. The female had most of the female friends around her saying a lot of negative things about the male and constantly said it was his fault and he's the one that was wrong and why she shouldn't feel bad and such. Most of the phrases listed in the textbook on page 204 were evident in both sides of the situation. When the male and female fought they often said things in the acknowledgement and when they were with their group of friends they were further endorsed. When you think back and really think through the whole situation was a bit hilarious because of how they would gather on two opposites sides of the classroom and have their battles.

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Q: Have you found it difficult to confirm others when you disagree with them?  If so, does reading this chapter help you distinguish between recognition, acknowledgement, and endorsement?  Can you distinguish between confirming others as people and endorsing particular ideas?


A: I most definitely have found it difficult to confirm others when I disagree with them, especially my parents whom are very traditional and modern at the same time. For example, I am a college student yet my curfew is 5:30pm and I have to be in bed by 10:00pm every night. I generally do not mind because it gives me an excuse to NOT go to those drinking parties and what not, but when it comes to doing group projects or homework or hanging out with friends I haven't seen in a long time, it gets really stressful because the period of time which I CAN and am AVAILABLE to meet up are ridiculous. As I grew older, I appreciate the fact that I can sleep a comfortable 8 hours or at least 6 hours a night. I never saw the point to comparing who has the least amount of sleep that night because in the long run, it is your body and all those sleepless nights will come back and bite you when you get old and elderly. I also accepted the fact that going home at 5:30pm is okay because of the way my homework schedule is worked this semester. But, for other semesters I will still nag at my parents for more time outside and get punished with guilt trips of how I should contribute to the family since I am living at home. Reading this chapter definitely created fine lines between the differences between confirm and disconfirm what people say. There are times when I am trying to explain my situation to another person and I couldn't quite find the words to describe these particular thoughts of what I think of another into words, so the section gave me almost a concrete definition and created lines for me. 

Q3

A very nice guideline which I would like to discuss this week is responding sensitively when others communicate emotions. I have developed the skill thoroughly as I grow into an adult and would like to discuss the guidelines in detail and how much help they will be in every form of communication you will have because majority of the population communicates with emotions. Essentially you don't even cut them off or encourage them to talk about their problems unless they want to talk about it with you and feel comfortable talking about it with you. I have learned from experience that if someone is crying sadly don't ever ask "are you ok?" because the answer will almost always be some answer that is not the reason why they are crying. Don't ask "do you want to talk about it?" because it will most likely be no as well. The best response for this situation if you truly care about the person is to just sit there and be there for them. There is no need to say anything, the fact that you are sitting there with tissues or patting their back is enough and more than sufficient. (of course, this is a general case, there are exceptions) If someone is currently speaking to you about a problem and how they feel about it do not butt in with your thoughts or what you would do, what you did in their situation, and all those other variations. The purpose of you listening to their problem is for them to vent unless they are seeking your advice or your responses.  If someone is coming at you and yelling at you angrily do not respond with anger. Instead, just calmly listen and try to piece together why they are feeling or thinking this way. I know that it will be vary hard to do, especially if they are trying to fish your anger so there will be a fight, but it solves the problem much more easily.

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Q: Review the fallacies discussed in the last section of this chapter.  Do any of these fallacies show up in your intrapersonal communication?  After reading about the fallacies and ways to challenge them, can you monitor and revise your intrapersonal communication?

A:  The common fallacies discussed in this chapter are: perfectionism, obsession with shoulds, over-generalization, taking responsibility for others, helplessness, and fear of catastrophic failure. The fallacies are fairly self explanatory as to what type of fault they are, essentially these will trigger emotions and cause us to make decisions for possibly the wrong reasons. After taking the critical thinking course I have fall pit to these fallacies less and less, however, there is a major downside which is I start to zone out because I am trying to explain to myself that if the claim is not backed up be wary. Majority of the people do fall pit to these fallacies and it is hard for me to change their mind, especially if they are old and stubborn and will not listen to logic and reason and instead choose to "follow their experience" or their own agenda. I find myself over and over again trying to convince others that what they think is not true and they have to evidence to back up their thoughts and claims to a point where I get tired and just let them do as they choose.

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Q: The book discusses different perspective on emotions.  Which perspective - of what combination of several - makes the most sense to you?  Why?  Explain how the perspective you favor gives you insight into emotions that you don't get from other perspectives.

A:  The perspective that makes the most sense to me is the cognitive labeling view of emotions, however, I am extremely guilty of the perceptual view of emotions. The reason for why I do not consistently cognitively label my emotions is because it really requires you to sit down and really think about what happened and think whether or not your immediate response to the external event is correct. This perspective is my desired perspective because it challenges me to think about the "is this really what I think it is or is there another reason?"; essentially to put myself in another shoes. The textbook gave a great example with the child whom was startled. Psychologically the child would have had permanent fear of dogs if she was not explained as to why the dog jumped at her. By explaining to her that the dog was overjoyed to see her and have a new friend and someone to play with, the dog became her new best friend and the fear was "erased". The main difference is just taking a step back to analyze what has happened rather than go to the immediate emotion which you feel that could change your attitude on the situation.

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Q: Free topic

A: The topic which I want to talk about this week is remembering. Memory is a very useful skill in any situation. A reliable memory is worth much more than scattered paper or post its telling you what is what and what needs to be done. I consider memory to be a skill because not everyone has the ability to recall information exactly. As stated by the book, we remember only the gist of what was said to us eight hours after a conversation. If you exercise your memory everyday it is much easier for you to recall information more exact and with more confidence. The way that I exercise my memory skill to assist me in remembering things is to memorize vocabulary words. When I was in high school every day I would memorize five words and then ten words the next day and then fifteen, etc until I hit twenty-five on Saturday and take Sunday's off. It is really tiring and hard in the beginning, but I can guarantee that you will no longer be taking heavy notes and studying as much for finals and tests because you learn to retain and do away your memory at will.

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Q: The International Listening Association (ILA) http://listen.org is a rich resource for learning more about listening and networking with others who recognize its importance in everyday life.  Its website features exercises to test and improve listening, factoids about listening, Internet discussion groups, quotes about the nature and value of listening, and a bibliography for those who want to read more.  Review "Listening is a 10 part skill", and report on what you learned:  http://listen.org/Resources/Documents/Nichols10PartSkill.pdf

A:  I love how straight forward this book is. (At least I think it was a book...or a pamphlet) I once again reviewed the different ways of nonlistening, how to change those habits, and the consequences of not listening. I love how the author tells us that we should engage in conversation and keep thoughts and important information in our mind. Sort of like how we would annotate a book as we read. If we find anything interesting or anything that toggles a question, write it down or keep it in your mind. When you actually engage in the conversation and find a way to make it interesting you are more likely to listen get the most out of the conversation or lecture. I once again will reference my monotone professor whom everyone has trouble focusing on sometimes. I absolutely love him, but there are days where I get distracted but I find ways to engage in the class by pretending he is speaking in a cool foreign accent. Another great reference I have are huge lecture halls where everyone around you is either taking notes by hand, typing away on their laptop, texting, playing games, etc and you are trying your best to pay attention. There are times I really wish I was back in the high school or middle school setting where the teacher would find activities for us to do to learn the material rather than just lecture, so, in order to get myself to engage in the lecture and not drift into my own thoughts, I would do mind maps. Especially for those that are more visual or a bit scatted mind maps really help organize everything and keep you in check. It provided visual appeal so I'll be more likely to pay attention and take pretty notes for me to refer back to. I was taught most of these "skills" as a child such as hold your tongue, and even if someone isn't interesting listen to them because they will always know at least one thing you don't know, it doesn't hurt to spend a few minutes listening to something you already know over again. Listening is really a great skill that is not stressed enough. Most people focus on public speaking rather than it's opposite "listening". Sometimes if you just open your ears to listen and your eyes to watch you learn so much about a person and almost everything that is able to be offered by the world. It is a necessity skill that is so often overlooked it pains me when I have to repeat myself several times.

Q1

Q: Review the six types of nonlistening discussed in this chapter.  Are any of them common in your communication?  Make a plan to overcome this type of nonlistening you have engaged in.  Describe the type of nonlistenging you engage in, and discuss how you plan to fix is.

A: The six types of nonlistening are: pseudolistening, monopolizing, selective listening, defensive listening, ambushing, and literal listening. Pseudolistening means that it looks as if you are listening, but you actually zoned out into our own thoughts. I often do this when I am speaking to someone that enjoys gossiping or talks about unintellectual subjects such as the clothes they saw at the mall, what he said/she said, and gossip. I mind the subjects very boring and resort to saying "uh-huh, uh huh" so it would get boring talking to me. Monopolizing means to keep the center of attention on yourself. For example, I have a few friends in high school whom always found a way to weave theirselves or their own experiences into the topic we, or our group, was discussing. So, one person would talk about the new iPhone 5 that had just come out and she would but in with her thoughts and saying that her Samsung Galaxy 3 is way better and how much fun she has using it and etc etc...Pretty much to a point where everyone just wanders off elsewhere or starts their own topic. Selective listening means we go in and out of the conversation and focus only on the things we want to hear. For example, my current math professor sort of has a monotone voice, but he teachers amazingly well. I start to zone out and keep copying the notes, but I am not "listening" to a single word he is saying. He suddenly says "the quiz on Thursday is on..." and everyone, including me automatically perks up their head and ears to hear what he has to say. Defensive listening means to be very aware of any critique you might receive and take it personally. I personally do not encounter this often. I am very careful with my choice of words to not insult or compare anyone to another person, but I do see this happening a lot with others where they accidentally let slip something that angers another. Ambushing means to find holes in another speakers words so you can "stuff a sock" in their mouth and hopefully watch them struggle to get out of it. For example, a lot of times when we are buying a used car the sales person will keep pushing you and trying to sell you the car. They could be talking about how good the mileage is or something but never really get into if the car has been in previous accidents or if someone died in the car from a car accident. Literal listening means you ignore the relationship which you have with the person. I often encounter this with my managers and supervisors. It seems sometimes that all they care about is getting their paycheck and if you can't make it during your shift go find someone to cover for you. I suppose the most common one in my life is pseudolistening and I do it intentionally mainly because I honestly don't care for those topics and my friends know that. By just responding "uh huh uh huh" they know that I have zoned out and I am not their gossip partner.

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Q: Pick one concept from the reading this week and discuss it in detail

A:The topic that I found the most interesting this week was mind reading. I have fairly good luck when I am "assuming" what a close family member or friend is thinking. I can easily put myself in others shoes and think like them. Although, unlike the example, I do not make my own plans and disregard another person's plans unless it was intentional to be a surprise or something. It would have to be something big like a birthday or anniversary for me to do those "I planned for you!" type of deal. So, in my opinion, the trick to "mind reading" is to just think like the other person. You have to be very sensitive and aware of how they respond to questions and their physical body language when they speak to you. It helps a lot if you know them very well, like a boyfriend or your mom. Everyone has their own way of expressing themselves. When you ask them a question such as "How was work today?" it is normal to respond somewhere along the lines of "it's alright" or "it was okay" or even "good". You can't really get a conversation going. But, if you pay enough attention you can see that when they say "it's alright" and nod their head a little, it means it was a normal day. If they do a lip smacking or a "umm" before responding with "it was okay" it was probably stressful at work and you should help lighten up their mood and before if you are going to ask or mention any bad news. And if they just say "good" it's a bit of a wild card. Although you are "assuming" in these cases, you can pay close attention to their body language which helps you guess what they are thinking, especially if they are not the talkative time.

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Q: Visit the Free Speech Museum's Hate Speech Page.  What did you learn about how hate speech is defined, who engages in it, and efforts to regulate hate speech on the Web?  What should be done about hate speech on the Web and off it?  Should we censor it?  Would doing so violate our constitutional right to freedom of speech?  Are there other, perhaps less formal, ways to reduce hate speech?   http://www.spectacle.org/freespch/musm/hate.html

A: Hate speech is defined as "communication that vilifies a person or group based on color, disability, ethnicity, gender, nationality, race, religion, sexual orientation, or other characteristic" on Wikipedia. In simple English, it means to express hatred loudly and bluntly. Mostly those who are racist engage in this activity. Some of the efforts to regulate hate speech on the web is to simply ban it by law. I think that hate speech definitely should be kept at a minimum; especially for those who take offense easily. Although it is common to see many races, nationalities, and sexual orientations in the bay area, other parts of the United States and other countries do not have similar views as us. One of San Francisco's favorite land marks is "Gay Street" and all of their celebrations and gay lounges/bars. A lot of time when you read the news a lot of teens are taken into offense when friends, family members, classmates, etc. laugh, make fun of, or hate the fact that they are gay or lesbian. A lot of people have narrow minds and are not open to this new generation of people being created along with the technology. With the ease of access of the internet, its honestly very hard to regulate every single thing that happens and even little blog posts that are written on the topic. I believe that off web these people that are being hated upon, whether it is because of their skin color or their accent, should learn to be proud of who they are and not take offense so easily. Offline, they should build confidence and understand that some people are just narrow minded and have potty mouth. You can't control what they say but you can control your own actions. Be proud of who you are and stand up for yourself and others can say whatever makes them happy. Unless they come knocking on your door like KKK, you should just brush it off. Online, to make it more safe, there should be a filter to these websites. Not saying I support Sopa, but I think that the government or companies should definitely do some weeding and take out growing hate sites or hate videos on YouTube. I had a friend tell me that there is a Russian girl on YouTube who hates on the gays and lesbians and a lot of them went to go kill themselves after watching her video or hearing about it.  Honestly, YouTube, take it off. Please be more aware of what these people are posting online. I think that censorship is stupid. If Sopa had passed I honestly would give up on the future. A lot of amateurs build home brew games and stuff on the internet and if Sopa were to take over and censor things like that. There is no way for censorship to just censor out the hate speeches. If we censor, we will most likely go all the way. In the United States, we highly value our freedom speech. By disagreeing we explore more options. Everyone is allowed to have opinions and definately this, in my opinion, does not violate freedom of speech. Whether or not this is considered starting a riot I will change my answer as need be because the effects of simple YouTube videos is quite amazing. I think that a hate speech awareness is very important. If we could push "Don't text and drive" with advertisements and actors and actresses it is possible to push "no hate speeches" if we really decided to. It just depends on how heavy of an impact this becomes in the United States.

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Q: Think about different metaphors for American society.  For many years, the country was described as a melting pot, which suggests that differences between citizens are supposed to melt down and blend into one unified character.  Recently, some have criticized this melting pot metaphor because it emphasizes wiping out differences, not respecting them.  The Reverend Jesse Jackson refers to the United States as both a rainbow and a family quilt.  Both of Jackson's metaphors emphasize recognizing and appreciating differences.  What metaphor would you propose?

A: I propose that America is more like a family quilt than a rainbow. It just depends on the point of view or standpoint in the position. America is composed of many immigrant and it's true, we all originated from somewhere. The only people who are "true Americas" are the Native Americans. (pun intended). The Europeans and Spanish came to North America by boat. So, historically speaking, we were at one point as different as the North and South pole. To be able to come together for the thirteen colonies was like the first step of making a quilt. If I am correct, the original flag was a quilt as well which further symbolizes how the United States is "United" because everyone is bound together. If we speak in terms of the American culture, I definitely see how some people may think that the melting pot is bogus. To come together does not always mean you have to become homogeneous. Just like something as simple as PB&J sandwich. Who knew crushed up nuts and preserved fruit on bread would be a classic and taste so good? They go very well together and are often seen as the classic combination, but it doesn't mean they have to be all mixed and blended in a blender. Every single person in the United States is special. Whether it's their ancestor or their culture we all come together under the flag of the United States. And just like PB&J sandwich, we are unified and together, but it does not mean we have to be blended together. What makes us different makes as unique!

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Q: Choose any topic and discuss in detail.

Ans: The topic I'm choosing this week is Johari's window. I first came across this concept/term from my public speaking professor. He strongly emphasized the idea of "greater self". One of the first things we learned in his class was Johari's window before we learned any other public speaking skill. Johari's window is split into four quadrants. The open area symbolizes the "area" or part of yourself that you see and understand and the part of you that others see and understand. Basically, the way you see yourself and the way others see you.  The blind area is almost exactly the same except it's about the things you don't see yourself doing. Perhaps you have a habit of pushing up your glasses whenever you are stuck on a math problem. You yourself don't realize this habit because it is done unconsciously but others around you see that part of you. The third quadrant is composed of what you see yourself and what is unknown to others. For example, your sister has died in a car accident, but if you do not reveal the fact to others, others will not know of this secret. The fourth and final quadrant is essentially the mystery quadrant. The part of you that you don't know and those around you don't know. This was described as "your soul" by my professor. The unknown holds a lot of potential. Maybe you have never danced in your life and no one has ever seen you dance; this would fall into the unknown area. Johari's window is definitely a topic worth sitting and really thinking about because in the future when we are looking for our future employers we want to be presenting the best of ourselves intentionally and unintentionally.

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Q: You may want to reread the section on race and identity in this chapter.  What is race?  Is race a useful way to classify people?  Why or why not?  Do you think the Census Bureau should allow people to check multiple races to define themselves?

Ans: Race is defined as a "primary aspect of personal identity" in the textbook. On dictionary.com race is defined as: a group of persons related by a common decent or heredity. Basically, the linage of people who share similar physical and also genetic characteristics. I do not think that race should be the primary way to identify a group of people as described in the textbook, but it definitely should not be done away with. In the current year of 2012, if we look around the streets in San Jose we see a mixture of people. Although it is not common in other cities and states to see such a wide variety the bay area is a pretty good representation of the future. There are a lot of interracial marriages and relationships as we speak; however, many still choose to stay within their own linage because of family demands or the ability to share a common culture. Those that are more traditional in their own culture at home, such as Japanese, may, most likely than not, have clashing cultures with the traditional Americans. When a couple share different backgrounds it is hard to find enough common ground to last a long lasting marriage. BUT, the child which they create, the "hybrids", are a mixture of the two extreme races. They essentially are creating a new "breed" or generation. (These may not be the best choice of words, but I think it makes the most sense to use these words. Sorry if they have offended you.) With this mixing of the races we reduce racism by not being able to label a particular person "Asian" or "White" or "Black" when filling out forms. At the current state where there are still some extremists who stay within their own "race", I think that the Census Bureau should allow people to check multiple races.

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Question: Talk with one man and one woman who are 20 years older than you.  Talk with one woman and one man who are 40 years older than you.  In each conversation, ask them to explain how men and women were expected to be when they were 20 years old.  As them to explain what behaviors, goals, and attitudes were considered inappropriate for woman and men when they were 20 years old.  Compare their responses with view held by 20-year-olds today.  Discuss your findings in a blog post.

Ans: I am turning twenty this year so the people I interviewed we're around their sixties. I decided to interview my grandma since I was there writing her checks anyways. She said that when she was twenty she had been working and supporting her family. She lived in the city so she wore semi-formal attire casually and made sure to do her make up everyday. It was considered inappropriate for a young lady to be casually dressed in pajamas, work out clothes, and "revealing attire" (such as short shorts or wearing a camisole as a top). When I asked my peers who were also twenty they said that almost any attire is appropriate as long as something is coming their private parts. Women's goal in life, back in the day, was to tend to the family, tidy the house, and take care of the kids. The men were expected to be the head of the household and bring home the paycheck. Their ultimate goal in life was to reproduce and create the "classic" family. Anyone who derived from the norm, such as a women as the head of the household or a women bringing home the paycheck and not taking care of the husband and children were looked down upon. Although we, as females, see her as a strong and responsible woman to be able to support her family, the community was not very supportive of such women once they were married. If the men were gay or desired to be single, or not find a job and be able to support themselves by their early twenties it was considered to be a shame to the family. For our current generation, it isn't really considered inappropriate to have any goal or attitude in life. The current is society is very relaxed in terms of standards. At most, it is considered inappropriate to be a prostitute or a beggar.

Q3

Q: Create own topic from Ch. 1

A: The topic I have chosen to be the most significant is meaning creating. Just as the text states meaning creating is most definitely the heart of all communication and interaction. Regardless if it is your boss or your significant other you develop your own "language" between one another. When people form groups or pairs they develop their own language. Often we see groups of friends go hang out together somewhere and they can refer a specific event that happened that is known only within the group because they were there together. A simple hand gesture or imitation of a sound could invoke a meaning that any third party will not and could not understand. Now, because of that shared memory and meaning of a word or sound or gesture they have created a deeper level of a relationship and communication. For example, friend A in a group can suddenly ask friend B "How was dinner last night?" and both friend A and friend B know that they were referring to the blind date that friend B was set up with while any other third part would think that the question could be just a simple conversation starter.

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Q: Identify a relationship of yours that has become closer over time.  Describe the earliest stage of the relationship.  Was it an I-It or an I-You relationship at the time?  During that early stage of the relationship, what did you talk about?  Were there topics of kinds of talk you avoided?  Now, describe the current relationship.  What do you now talk about?  Can you identify differences over time in your own and the other person's shared fields of experience?

A: Of course, the easiest answer to this question is my significant other whom I shall name Mr. Bob. I remember the earliest stage of our relationship was definitely an I-It. I was texting a friend of mine and Mr. Bob took his phone and started to "troll" on me. Basically, he would mess with me and pretend he is my friend's twin or brother and created a mystery man figure in my brain. Naturally I am a very curious person so I wanted to find out who he was, but I never got the chance to and I didn't want to ask my friend because it would basically ruin the fun of having a mystery man. Out of the blue I unsuspectingly met him while him and my friend were hanging out and I recognized the way he spoke right away and slapped a picture and name to go with Mr. Bob. I spoke to him more through a social networking site and we quickly became friends. We would message each out around 100-130 messages a day on the site which signifies the I-You relationship. We mostly emailed each other about our day, ask each other some semi-personal questions such as our family and ourselves, the news, and he would constantly crack jokes and I would respond back with a witty response. We didn't really avoid any topic, occasionally I would ask a personal question to probe at his goal and philosophy in life and such or his childhood. We never intentionally asked or avoided any question, however, majority of the things we spoke about were of the present or within the past 5 years. I asked for his cell phone number and started to text Mr. Bob throughout the day. Together we probably sent around 2000 text messages a day. By the time I asked him out on a date we already knew it was the beginning of something because our personalities just clicked. In some ways we were the exact opposite and in some ways we are exactly the same. Most importantly, Mr. Bob cannot stop making jokes which definitely brings joy and happiness. So, our I-Thou relationship developed within 2-3 dates and he is now my greatest support...and human stress ball. Currently we can talk about anything except from past relationships. We have absolutely nothing to hide because of our open-mindedness. Occasionally when we do clash we accept each other for out different thoughts and opinions and respond with why we don't agree or don't believe that is correct (pretty much like a Socratic seminar).

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Q: The first part of chapter one in your text describes an older "linear model" of communication.  It then goes onto describe "interactive models" of communication.  Read through this in your text, in-depth, and discuss both models and how they differ.  If possible, give an example from your life.

A:  Linear model is depicted as a straight and single line flow starting from the source of information, or origin, to the destination. There is a clear beginning and ending to this model. In the beginning, when this model was first created, it was a simple message received directly from sender to receiver. Later on noise and several other factors like where the message came from were included into the model. Noise resembles any breakage in the message; such as: rewording or summarizing from one recipient to the other could cause some vital details to be forgotten. The interactive model, however, is depicted as a circular shape with no beginning and no end. What is unique about the interactive model is "noise" is replaced by other types of communication like opinions and/or feedback from one source to another. The interactive model also always the pair or multiple of people to communicate dynamically because the constant receiving information, forming opinion or thoughts, then outputting to another person, named the recipient, and the cycle continues over and over.

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I am currently a junior at SJSU. I am currently a bio major but plan on changing over to a software engineer major. Hopefully I don't pass out from all of the physics courses along the way! I have never "taken" physics before. (I have taken one class at SJSU but really...I didn't learn anything at all...and that's my entire physic course career from high school till now.) I'm not really a blogging person. I have tried to blog on tumblr, but people started to flood there and I ended up just scrolling through the pictures. I have tired keeping a blogspot, xanga, twitter, and many other social network sites but nothing ever really stuck to me. I had taken another blogging class offered by Professor Perez and enjoyed it thoroughly and wishes other online classes could take up this method as well. (I just wished we had a better and easier way to take the quizzes and midterms!) Other than that, I expect this class to be a blast! Whoot!