Q: Have you found it difficult to confirm others when you disagree with
them? If so, does reading this chapter help you distinguish between
recognition, acknowledgement, and endorsement? Can you distinguish
between confirming others as people and endorsing particular ideas?
A: I most definitely have found it difficult to confirm others when I disagree with them, especially my parents whom are very traditional and modern at the same time. For example, I am a college student yet my curfew is 5:30pm and I have to be in bed by 10:00pm every night. I generally do not mind because it gives me an excuse to NOT go to those drinking parties and what not, but when it comes to doing group projects or homework or hanging out with friends I haven't seen in a long time, it gets really stressful because the period of time which I CAN and am AVAILABLE to meet up are ridiculous. As I grew older, I appreciate the fact that I can sleep a comfortable 8 hours or at least 6 hours a night. I never saw the point to comparing who has the least amount of sleep that night because in the long run, it is your body and all those sleepless nights will come back and bite you when you get old and elderly. I also accepted the fact that going home at 5:30pm is okay because of the way my homework schedule is worked this semester. But, for other semesters I will still nag at my parents for more time outside and get punished with guilt trips of how I should contribute to the family since I am living at home. Reading this chapter definitely created fine lines between the differences between confirm and disconfirm what people say. There are times when I am trying to explain my situation to another person and I couldn't quite find the words to describe these particular thoughts of what I think of another into words, so the section gave me almost a concrete definition and created lines for me.
Hey Wishlist ! I loved reading your post. Your story is similar to mine because I think coming home before sunset, sleeping on time and maintaining a disciplined schedule in my parents home was a cultural norm. Although it troubled me, just like you that I would not be able to hang out with friends who had the liberty to do what they wanted anytime, anywhere, it helped me in keeping up with my college studies, and work. Today I am an organized and focused person because of my upbringing in such a disciplined house for which I thank my parents.
ReplyDeleteI agree and find myself disagreeing with usually everyone around me. I always have an opinion on everything. My parents use to have us on curfew and all that but they realize that we need time to be out with our friends because we tend to always moody when we stay at home all day. Its good that it keeps you away from drinking and parties. I love sleeping at least 8 hours a night. It makes me feel great but i still want to sleep more but i can't, i have to get homework done, go to school and etc. My parents don't mind be staying out late because they know i'm a good kid and usually working til late at night anyways. This chapter was helpful for me in communicating and listening and tips on how to listen and acknowledge instead of ignoring because you disagree.
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