A very nice guideline which I would like to discuss this week is responding sensitively when others communicate emotions. I have developed the skill thoroughly as I grow into an adult and would like to discuss the guidelines in detail and how much help they will be in every form of communication you will have because majority of the population communicates with emotions. Essentially you don't even cut them off or encourage them to talk about their problems unless they want to talk about it with you and feel comfortable talking about it with you. I have learned from experience that if someone is crying sadly don't ever ask "are you ok?" because the answer will almost always be some answer that is not the reason why they are crying. Don't ask "do you want to talk about it?" because it will most likely be no as well. The best response for this situation if you truly care about the person is to just sit there and be there for them. There is no need to say anything, the fact that you are sitting there with tissues or patting their back is enough and more than sufficient. (of course, this is a general case, there are exceptions) If someone is currently speaking to you about a problem and how they feel about it do not butt in with your thoughts or what you would do, what you did in their situation, and all those other variations. The purpose of you listening to their problem is for them to vent unless they are seeking your advice or your responses. If someone is coming at you and yelling at you angrily do not respond with anger. Instead, just calmly listen and try to piece together why they are feeling or thinking this way. I know that it will be vary hard to do, especially if they are trying to fish your anger so there will be a fight, but it solves the problem much more easily.
I really have to say you put your thoughts together well. Responses in any relationship whether it be peers to co-workers are crucial. I liked how you stated that it is wise to not encourage someone to talk about their problems; I could really benefit and learn from this one. I guess because I am a girl and always want to talk about things aloud and help others when they have an issue--it comes naturally. But instead of unfolding the problem and making it bigger, simply refrain from that and maybe talk about the positive and what you can do to make things better. Another point I agreed with was when someone comes at you with rage to stop and listen. Instead of making it worse and responding with anger take a step back and listen first; this can eliminate an argument or further rage. This is a problem I often have with my mother, because I can often get frustrated with listening. I appreciate your advice G-Dragon! Great post :)
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